To help burn off some much pent up steam, Shane and I decided to get out the house yesterday with the babies. Jensen went to school and then came home and went to his friend Lucas's house to spend the night. Days like these can get kind of boring and the last thing Shane and I wanted to do was sit in the house and clean...I HATE cleaning.
We left the house at about 10 AM and went straight to court to get paperwork for his DUI class. After El Cajon we went to Escondido, went shopping for food and got an oil change..
Jiffy Lube. Never want to go there again. They left a wrench underneath my hood and didn't close it all the way so when we were driving down the freeway, it started hopping. We had to pull over. Shane called Jiffy Lube and now they have to flush our our transmission fluid because of their stupid mistake... ans Shane is keeping the wrench.
After Oil Changers, we went to Shane's DUI class where he was able to re-enroll and pay off his balance... geeeeez what a relief. 3 years of DUI class and these people do is take money.... not sure if they even help. After already being down the hill for HOURS, we went on a hunt for Shane's parents bank to cash his birthday check and we FINALLY found it. After that we went to the eye doctors at wal-Mart and got my eye exam and a pair of prescription glasses, which I guess were badly needed. When we finally got home, my registration was FINALLY in the mail.
Altogether it was a productive day. Shane and I had a lot of fun and got a lot of stuff done. Wish every day could be THAT productive.
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Thursday, March 10, 2011
March 9th 2011
I am excited to do this, but I am also a little hesitant to do so because of judgement from family members and friends. So, I have some explaining to do. We have 5 people in our family. Shane, me (elyse), Jensen, Brooklynn and Zephyr. I think that there are people out there who will benefit from knowing that they are NOT alone in the world when dealing with an alcoholic spouse or family member. This is a real disease that most people blow off as an excuse to be irresponsible, to drown in their own sorrows or to just party
Shane Jewell and I met at Hope Vineyard Christian Assembly in Ramona California. We first were roommates, then friends, lovers, parents and then partners for life. When we married Shane had been sober for almost a year and we had introduced our daughter into the world on Sept 23rd, 2009. With everything going on Shane working full time, attending his AA meetings and us keeping a tight eye on the kids and Jensens schooling, we didn't see the onset of a relapse and it truly was the last thing from my mind.
I will never say that there are days where I feel so hopeless from his disease that I threaten divorce on a daily basis. This has to stop. The frustration and pain that is associated with alcoholism is so extreme that it crumbles most relationships. Not only am I convicted by God to stay with Shane "through better and worse" but also because I love the real person he is. Underneath the alcohol lies my husband, the unselfish love of my life.
Today is one of those days I wish would pass quicker than others. Shane was picked up two nights ago for a warrant. We were sitting down to watch a movie after a hard Spring cleaning day... and Shane's sobriety has been wonderful....but we're still paying for past mistakes. Shane owes about $300 dollars to his DUI class, but because we couldn't afford to pay it, they put a warrant out. The same day that we recieved the notice in the mail, the police picked him up. We didn't even have a chance to pick it up and ix it ourselves. So today is here and his court date is here. Shane and I are under an immense amount of pressure. Part of my blog is meant to help release some of this stress. I'm dropping the kids off at Ben and Linda's in a couple of hours. Our wonderful neighbors who live next door have not only become my friends, but have always been there in good and rough times with Shane and I.
Sarah is going to pick the kids up at 3 and watch them until I get home. Once again, the support system from my friends has been unparalleled. There have been many people hurt by Shane's condition in the past. So hurt that they refuse to have anything to do with him. Shane is misunderstood. Shane is mistreated and he has been for most of life, void the time that his parents poured out love and compassion on him only to find resistance on his part. I have had the chance to watch Shane grow as a parent and husband even through hard times. The truth is a hard thing to tell especially when you are looking at other families who may look at you as someone not strong or not strong enough to change. But, for those people: Our family shares a true bond and our family is just like yours. Every family deals with something and this is what ours deals with. God will not give us more than we can handle.
I'm picking Shane up today from jail (hopefully) and I pray that this incident has not disheartened him too much. I don't want him going backwards. We are working on going forward, and even with a positive outlook, it still seems like we're standing in still water.
I am hoping that with this blog, people in our families and our close friends will pray for The JEWELL journey as we hope and pray for love and emotional support and also supply support for those who struggle with some of these same issues.
Shane Jewell and I met at Hope Vineyard Christian Assembly in Ramona California. We first were roommates, then friends, lovers, parents and then partners for life. When we married Shane had been sober for almost a year and we had introduced our daughter into the world on Sept 23rd, 2009. With everything going on Shane working full time, attending his AA meetings and us keeping a tight eye on the kids and Jensens schooling, we didn't see the onset of a relapse and it truly was the last thing from my mind.
I will never say that there are days where I feel so hopeless from his disease that I threaten divorce on a daily basis. This has to stop. The frustration and pain that is associated with alcoholism is so extreme that it crumbles most relationships. Not only am I convicted by God to stay with Shane "through better and worse" but also because I love the real person he is. Underneath the alcohol lies my husband, the unselfish love of my life.
Today is one of those days I wish would pass quicker than others. Shane was picked up two nights ago for a warrant. We were sitting down to watch a movie after a hard Spring cleaning day... and Shane's sobriety has been wonderful....but we're still paying for past mistakes. Shane owes about $300 dollars to his DUI class, but because we couldn't afford to pay it, they put a warrant out. The same day that we recieved the notice in the mail, the police picked him up. We didn't even have a chance to pick it up and ix it ourselves. So today is here and his court date is here. Shane and I are under an immense amount of pressure. Part of my blog is meant to help release some of this stress. I'm dropping the kids off at Ben and Linda's in a couple of hours. Our wonderful neighbors who live next door have not only become my friends, but have always been there in good and rough times with Shane and I.
Sarah is going to pick the kids up at 3 and watch them until I get home. Once again, the support system from my friends has been unparalleled. There have been many people hurt by Shane's condition in the past. So hurt that they refuse to have anything to do with him. Shane is misunderstood. Shane is mistreated and he has been for most of life, void the time that his parents poured out love and compassion on him only to find resistance on his part. I have had the chance to watch Shane grow as a parent and husband even through hard times. The truth is a hard thing to tell especially when you are looking at other families who may look at you as someone not strong or not strong enough to change. But, for those people: Our family shares a true bond and our family is just like yours. Every family deals with something and this is what ours deals with. God will not give us more than we can handle.
I'm picking Shane up today from jail (hopefully) and I pray that this incident has not disheartened him too much. I don't want him going backwards. We are working on going forward, and even with a positive outlook, it still seems like we're standing in still water.
I am hoping that with this blog, people in our families and our close friends will pray for The JEWELL journey as we hope and pray for love and emotional support and also supply support for those who struggle with some of these same issues.
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